Like Elsa said... 'Let it go'.
Everyone loves a good Disney princess movie especially when they have catchy sing-along-songs and a fierce, independent princess who's discovering her own self-worth. But what does it mean to 'Let it go' and how do we go about doing it?
I have met many people who worry about things that they have absolutely no power over (sometimes, myself included). One of those things being what other people think about you. This thought clouds your brain and prevents you from moving forwards. When you're just about to make a breakthrough, that little voice in the back of your head pipes up and mutters "but what will people say about this?" and you freeze. The voice is a mumble at first but as your brain goes into over-drive it gets louder and more convincing. The thoughts snowball into a 'swirling storm inside' until finally, you decide you're not going to take action. You know what...it's easier to stay at home than open up to vulnerability soooo, another episode of Jeremy Kyle it is. Welcome to your 'Kingdom of isolation'.
WHY DO WE DO THIS TO OURSELVES? Many people call it procrastination but this is just a symptom of fear. It's human nature to be liked and accepted but sometimes, this can stop you from achieving your dreams.
A lot of how we act is influenced by avoiding fear instead of living in love. People are scared by what other people think of them. They live their life within the confines of other people's opinions and society's expectations. Have you ever stopped to realise that the people who succeed are the people who do things differently? They are the people that stand up and unapologetically say "this is me". They are the people who choose to accept themselves, despite their flaws, and they're ready to harness their inner superwoman.
'Let it go' is written at a pivotal point in Elsa's life where she's chosen to take full advantage of her power and not worry about what people will think about her; because honestly...who cares? It doesn't matter what other people think of you, all that matters is what you think of yourself and whether you're living in love. People like to have something to talk about, but it won't last.
The saddest line in the song that represents an accepted societal view is 'conceal, don't feel, don't let them know' because that's what we conform to. That feeling, let alone showing, any emotion is wrong. We should be strong and pretend we've got everything together (Here's a secret...no one has their shit together. Everyone is winging it through life!). Emotions are our personal GPS system and go hand in hand with our 'gut instinct'. The first sign of acknowledging whether you're on the right path or not is to understand the language of your emotions, not listen to what others say about you.
"So how do I go about not worrying about what other people think?". Try these steps...
Know that no one is as committed to your life as you are, what's right for someone else may not be right for you.
Consider who you will be helping in the situation and what they would think/gain.
The people that are often trying to hurt you have been hurt themselves - it's defensive and a reflection of their insecurities.
Forgive - holding on to grudges only hurts yourself. Similarly if it's something you've done wrong; forgive yourself and learn from it. We all make mistakes.
Practice mindfulness.
Learn to identify these thoughts when they start and turn them into something positive.
Play 'Let it go' and sing it at the top of your lungs! Trust me, it feels great!
Don't be afraid to be yourself. It's sometimes easier said than done but you should keep it with you. Always. So ladies, life is too short; 'Let the storm rage OOONNN...the cold never bothered us anyway'.
Thank you for reading!
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